How Do I Practise LTOYW? Part Two

This, the second introductory blog on How to Practise Love TOY Wisdom will cover : How to send emails to your own heart, which was introduced in Part One, and it is also going to teach a little bit about the how and why of cascading a daily flood of “I Love You’s” to your own heart as a therapeutic  practice.

The idea of sending emails to your own heart comes from the recent teachings of a new favourite spiritual teacher of mine, Matt Kahn of True Divine Nature.  I invite you to look him up and for an awesome experience join his upcoming series of teachings called Angel Academy 3 that begins on September 27th.   His idea of telling your own heart “I love you” whenever you are feeling fear, or anger, or sadness, or at any time you feel dis-comfort, is such a simple thing to do.  The difficult part is when you are in the moment of a reactive response to be able to make the switch in your usual mindset and choose to speak to your own heart FIRST!

Remember as a child when you were taught to count to ten before reacting to someone’s insults or behavior?  This is  because that is how long it took the brain to go from the stimulus response/fight or flight reactive mode of the primitive brain stem (a.k.a. the “dinosaur brain”) when your heart pumps faster and your blood pressure rises,  cortisol and adrenaline rush in to protect you from a perceived threat to having the impulse move into the limbic or emotional brain (a.k.a. the “doggy-horsey brain”) where you would have a feeling or emotional response to the stimulus which will either be fear-based or love-based.

Then after ten seconds, the impulse has moved through and into the frontal lobes of the thinking brain (the “human” brain) where all that conditioning I spoke about in September 18th’s blog entry called Part One of “How Do I Practise Love TOY Wisdom?” is contained.  Here, in the so-called rational mind also lies all those subconscious beliefs, judgments and ideas picked up when our brains were on automatic record as infants, toddlers, and very young children.  Which means that in actual fact, when we are in our human brain, thinking about what has happened and how to respond, we are still very much in a reactive mode.  In fact, in many ways it is worse than fighting back with words or fists or running away and hiding which is what young children automatically do when they are triggered to feel unsafe.  (Classic example is a two year old’s tantrum!)

So, you might be asking, why shouldn’t we allow our thinking, rational brain to kick in and make a choice for us?   Why is Cathy saying that thinking and responding is not a good idea?  Well, I’m saying this for a very simple reason, which may seem too simplistic when you first consider it but that is the beauty of Love TOY Wisdom.  And the reason is this:  IF you are in a situation where you have anger, fear, sadness, doubt, or dis-comfort (dis-ease) of any kind, then first of all you are NOT IN ALIGNMENT with your true self, with your true divine nature and second of all, it was your thinking brain/ego mind that got you there in the first place! 

What this means is, thinking will not get you back into alignment.  Feeling will!  This is using your heart-mind, which is far more wise and intuitive than modern science used to make us believe but which the new studies like those of HeartMath  are proving to be true.  The heart has more “knowingness” than the brain because of its ability to tap into the universal consciousness and instantly scan for solutions to challenges.  If this seems a little “out there”, then keep reading future Love TOY Wisdom blogs, because I will go deeper into the teachings as we go.

For now, all that is needed is an awareness that we need to choose to focus on our hearts when we are out of alignment or out of happiness and joy which is our true nature, and thus stay out of our thoughts which have all those conditioned patterns running the show.  And to do that, just as we do in mantra meditation, when we replace the random or rising thoughts with a mantra, we substitute whatever else may come up in our response to an upset with the words “I Love You” directed with focus and intentionality to our own heart.  We can even place a hand on our heart as we speak the words…and it is best to say them out loud, though just thinking them is a great place to start.  Then, we repeat the “I Love Yous” several times or until we FEEL BETTER, where “feeling better” is code for Moving back into alignment with our true self.

How often do you repeat?  Until you feel Safe and comfortable again.

When do you do this? Whenever you feel un-safe and un-comfortable!

Matt Kahn calls this sending emails to your own heart.  You could call it sending love letters to your own heart.  It is actually expanding the heart-space to be more and more open to receiving love, just as your inbox expands as you receive more and more emails. And unlike the capacity of your server, there is no limit to the heart…it is boundless and infinite, ever-expanding for as far and as wide and as long as you allow it to go.

Now, I add one other practice, just to make the heart muscle a bit stronger emotionally in the moment of upset, and that is to take a minute or two before each meal, just as if  saying a prayer of gratitude which you can do right after the practice, and also again right before going to sleep, like a bedtime prayer, and that is to speak to your heart and say “I Love You” repeatedly for that short 60 to 120 seconds.  And the way you say it is lovingly, gently, kindly, as if you were speaking to a three-year old child.   Speak the words out loud, or whisper them if you don’t feel comfortable vocalizing out loud, and even to just think them does exercise the feeling muscles and expand the heart-space.  Best practice however, whenever possible, is to say “I Love You” out loud, hand on heart, sweetly, soothingly, happily, lovingly, in any way just like you were speaking to your little child self.

But wait! Oh my gosh!  You are speaking to your little child self.  That beautiful inner child, innocent child, who sometimes gets scared and feels un-safe and needs soothing in a way she or he may never have been soothed before, or at least not that you can remember.   This is a super special topic for future blogs and is not necessary to be fully informed about for the process introduced here to work.  In fact, the best way to approach all this when starting out, is with that original tabula rasa innocence and “Just Do It!”

So, that is how to send emails to your own heart, which is a foundational part of Love Toy Wisdom, or Loving the One You’re With.   I like to say that it makes every day Valentine’s Day.  I promise that if you start putting Love Toy Wisdom into practice as outlined here, then you will experience more happiness and more joy in a very short period of time.

Stay tuned for “How Do I Practise Love TOY Wisdom? Part Three” for even more actions to take to “Love The One You’re With”.

Hands on Heart and pledge allegiance to your own healing!   Matt Kahn 1  raven from facebook I love you!    LTOYW.

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So What Do I Do in Love TOY Wisdom? Part One

Just a brief re-cap and we’ll be off and running with the answer to this question: “What am I supposed to do in the practice of Love TOY Wisdom?”

Remember that Love TOY Wisdom is the “quip”  (the quick uploaded imprinted phrase)  or the distillation of the term “Love The One You’re With”. I know that it is the title of a beautiful song from 1970, written by Stephen Stills of the amazing Crosby, Stills, Nash, & Young (and many more permutations) and if you listen to the lyrics it is about Love.  Being a child of the Flower Power generation and a baby-boomer, I was in university when this song first came out and it became an anthem for the newly awakened sexuality for my generation of women. .. thanks to that little pink pill.  Nuff said!

You’ll find a youtube link for the song here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v2z0us0JPM4  and I have included the lyrics below.

So, Loving The One You’re With is about loving the person sitting next to you at the party, and the stranger on the bus ( a la Joan Osborne, 1995, as written by Eric Bazillian), and the neighbor across the road whose cat uses your front doormat as a litterbox.  But FIRST, and I know you may have heard it  a hundred times in a dozen different ways, but it is so very, very true… Before you can truly love another, you love yourself.

Why?  Why?  Why?

Love is the universal energy of Unity and we are all One Tribe, one organism of Life, as science is now confirming left right and centre… but don’t take my word for it…Google It! :))  We are quantumly connected and like the giant hologram we are, each piece of Us, the skin-encapsulated spirit we call a human being, is a manifestation of that hologram, however miniscule your mind sees yourself in the giant microcosm called Life.

So, when you Love yourself, you Love Everybody…no exclusions…and since most of us, whether we are aware of it or not, have been conditioned to have judgments against some other bodies (buddies), whether it be from religious beliefs, racial prejudices, social mores, whatever, whatever!  It’s there.  Deep in our subconscious, inherited from our ancestors, from our parents, teachers and caregivers, peers, and the great 20th century enculturator…the media, specifically T.V.  By the time we are 2, from the moment of conception, we have been on constant record, and this continues well into our pre-school and early childhood, until we reach about 7, when our neurobiology begins to develop a so-called rational aspect to the brain.

Then we develop our full-blown personality, and everything that was previously on Record…and I mean EVERYTHING our senses could absorb!…then gets put onto Rewind.  Endless replay of the “Music of Me” or all the vibrations we have imprinted and laid down.  That’s our subconscious programming.  It’s insidious, it’s infectious, as well as beautiful, and life-affirming.  The problem is, we get confused.  We have all these feelings that come up that often are in conflict with what we are living, and we have desires that sometimes do not jive with the folks out there.

In previous blogs I have discussed what happens when we let judgment continue to run our programming.  But now I am here to remind you that we can adjust our vibrational tuning forks, just like a receiver in those old transistor radios can be “tuned in” to receive the Music we want to receive, or a satellite dish can be re-programmed to get the precise experience /channel that you desire to have.

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Transistor radio, circa 1960

Now, some of us may even need to start with the hardware.  Maybe their receivers are not clear, having been damaged through some perceived past misuse or abuse.  That’s more than okay, and Love TOY Wisdom can repair a receiver just like THAT!  (Snap!)   It’s all the same process of feeling what you have always wanted to feel, even when you didn’t know or weren’t sure, how you wanted to feel.

How does everyone want to feel?  Everyone wants to feel the way we felt when we first emerged into Life and even on the day we were born, no matter how stressful the environment might have been…it was all we knew…our Source identity, which is pure consciousness, pure divine being-ness, blissful awareness of our true identity permeating every cell of our body, and it is the energy we call Love.

That’s who we are!  That’s who we have always been and will always be, and it is our true divine nature that we may have forgotten as we, as that infant/ baby/toddler, put our minds on “Record” and then later, tried to sort it all out.  Somehow, we have forgotten who we really are.

Love TOY Wisdom is here to remind you and to guide you to find yourself again. How?  By Loving The One You’re With…the One you have always been with since the day you were born…and even before that, actually! (incidentally, did you know that your heart is the first organ to develop in the foetus…thump, thump, thump…) Yes, Loving the One You’re With from Second One when you took your first breath of life-giving oxygen.

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Foetus at 8 weeks. “Baby, baby, can’t you hear my heart beat?”

So, that’s how we “do” Love Toy Wisdom…essentially we love ourselves as we have never been loved before, as we have always wanted to be loved, as we are truly loved because we are Love.  This massive download of Love repairs the separation from our true nature that we have been conditioned to feel  over our Lifetime, by raising our consciousness to a higher vibrational awareness of who we are: Love.  And we do that so simply… just by sending “I Love You” emails to our own hearts constantly and relentlessly, whether we think we need to or we think we want to or we think it’s stupid.  We just ignore all that “stuff” and do it.

Next time…how do I send an email to my own heart?

love is an energy  LTOYW  I Love you!

Love the One You’re With

If you’re down and confused And you don’t remember who you’re talking to Concentration slips away Because your baby is so far away

Well there’s a rose in a fisted glove And the eagle flies with the dove And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey Love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad Don’t sit crying over good times you’ve had Well there’s a girl sitting right next to you And she’s just waiting for something to do

Well there’s a rose in a fisted glove And the eagle flies with the dove And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey Love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with

Oh yea oh yea, yea Lord, love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with Why don’t you love?

Turn your heartache right into joy She’s a girl and you’re a boy Did you get it together and make it nice? When you ain’t gonna need anymore advice

Well there’s a rose in a fisted glove And the eagle flies with the dove Sometimes you can’t be with the one you love, honey Love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with You gotta love the one you’re with

You gotta love, oh love You gotta love, oh love You gotta love, love the one you’re with You gotta love, love

Songwriter: STEPHEN STILLS

What Is Love Toy Wisdom?

Today I am launching the first blog description of Love TOY Wisdom, which is the nickname for my new program “Love the One You’re With”.  In a nutshell, I am describing it as soul masturbation, which means loving yourself (The One you are always with!) as you have never been loved before!  It means, in the words of Matt Kahn, a teacher I have just recently been following, whose teachings are known as “True Divine Nature”, to send “I Love You’s” to your own heart, both as a daily practice and whenever you judge anything or anyone.

The premise for all of this is the understanding that somewhere, back in our childhoods, we experienced judgments and conditions from our caregivers, also known as The Tribe, with the intention of keeping us safe according to their own beliefs and conditioning, that deeply conflicted with our true divine innocence which, coming directly from Source Energy, had an innate knowing awareness of its Self as a soul.  But soon, the mind develops, and we “forget” that divine nature and that we are a soul.  Sometimes we experience teachings from our tribe’s religions that tell us that we have a soul but it seems to be separate from the identity we are taught to assume.

“Love The One You’re With” is first of all a reawakening to the fact that we are the energy of Unconditional Love…that it is our highest vibration and that in living this life we have only masked that vibration in dense layers of beliefs, thoughts, and especially judgments, a.k.a.  “THE EGO”.

We “forgot” or “lost” this essence in order to be safe in the world we were born into and we struggle to maintain it, suffering when our desires…our creative force to achieve what we already KNOW is our destiny, conflicts with that world: the rules, the expectations, the beliefs, the judgments, which keep us safe, but also which keep us from experiencing true freedom to be who we are meant to be.

We become caught up into a cycle of stress, where the more we try to get our needs met, the more we bump up against the rules and judgments and expectations of others., which in turn, causes more of the stress.  It sinks into our minds and then our bodies and for some of us, we suffer dis-eases, which we then try to “cure” with more “stuff”, masking the symptoms and ignoring the source.  But that’s what we’ve been conditioned to believe, and we so want to conform, don’t we?

Some of us try so hard to “fit in” to gain that love from others in our world that we start to believe that there is something wrong with us when we don’t.  Then we get these feelings of unworthiness. We get into patterns where it is hard for us to receive anything because we don’t feel that we deserve it.  In this process we put up so many walls…barriers to receiving the love, the approval, the attention, the affection, and all else in the abundance that we desire.

Or, some of us take the opposite stance and fight against conformity.  These are the rebellious ones, the “I’ll show you” folks.  I don’t need your love and approval. I don’t need love and approval from anyone!  And so we isolate ourselves from feeling and being who we really are.  What we resist, persists!

So, what’s the solution?  It’s nothing new at all.  I have just packaged it up in a simple way with a few catchy aspects.  But before I say any more you need to know this:  Love TOY Wisdom works whether you believe it or not.  Even if you are the most skeptical person on the planet…and I think I know you personally!… this process works.  It works for anyone, any age, any anything, because it is so basic to our nature, like breathing.  It’s just that 99.99999% of the people have forgotten to do it…conditioned out of their hearts and into their minds by millennia of tribal teachings!

Love Toy Wisdom is primal.  And once you put the process into practice, no matter how curmudgeonly you be, you will start to see the shifts in your life.  I promise!  Your life will become orgasmic!  You will start to masturbate your soul in the most innocent way, and you will become the you that you have always been , whether you have kept your true self hidden from the world or you put your ego self out there confronting it on every turn.

Love TOY Wisdom is the awareness that when we start to love ourselves as we desire to be loved, no matter what…unconditionally in every moment…then we remove the worldly mask and become our true, angelic, highest vibrational selves.  AND THE GOOD NEWS IS:

It’s the only tool you’ll ever need!  In fact, I am calling it a toy, not a tool, because Life is meant to be fun, and playful, and even orgasmic! (wherein lies the masturbation part)

To treat yourself with all the love in your own heart, which actually taps into all the infinite love of the universe, is playing at the highest level with all of the other angelic beings and masters who exist in this holographic universe.  Which are all pieces of You and therefore, you are playing with yourself!

AND here’s the Best Part:  Even if you are in the darkest place of judgment, unworthiness, fear, anger, doubt, or hatred, YOU CAN’T MESS THIS UP!  It works without you…well without that Ego You which is the only part of you that can experience those frozzy emotions, beautiful and much needed aspect of you that it is… having any control over it whatsoever!  You can’t fail even if you want to! No more self-sabotage.  It cannot exist in the energy which you will create with this practice. All you have to do is send “I Love You’s”  to your own heart.

The “HOW?” and more “WHY?” will follow, so please  stay tuned.

No one is going to love you

Love TOY Wisdom: Origins

From 11.11.11 through 12.12.12, to the current time and space, Heart Healing has become a very popular source of information. I fondly view it as the map of my own return to wholeness which I followed faithfully to my next destination… LTOYW.

It is in my awareness, that as we have moved fully into the Aquarian Age, with all of the energies that have been coming onto this beautiful planet throughout the 2012 cycle and now firmly into the period that will take us to the middle of the span of time running from the beginning of the millennium (2000) to the year 2020, we human beings are experiencing an accelerated awakening of consciousness as never before occurring in our history. Homo sapiens are reaching a new level of evolution in waves of connected waking-up as we, collectively, and as individuals, one soul at a time, are coming to know an expanded identity.

We are moving into a deepening sense of Spirit which is propelling some of us into a Fifth Dimensional frequency and beyond, where eventually all of creation will exist. Every energetic being will move into those vibrations at some point in the Divine Cosmic Plan.  The First Wave of Ascension, as this new way of living and being is referred to by some, is already well under way.  If you are here reading this message, then you are already on that path, taking that journey.

Congratulations! It is a journey of the heart, as the seat of the soul, and it promises to be an exciting ride!  Healing your beautiful heart, where “to heal” simply means to “remember wholeness”, is my purpose in this awakening process. Since 2008 when I was guided to create Heart Healer Treatment of Oneness™, I have adjusted the process to allow for new guidance and new teachings that I have acquired and it is my dharma, my divine purpose, to be one who brings the message to the hearts who are drawn to my spirit. I have a very simple practice to teach to you to prepare you for the process of Awakening. It is not much more complicated than living from the heart, which is where we start our human journey as a newborn baby, and where we all end in whatever form we take at the time of our physical death here. I call it Love The One You’re With… LTOYW.  (It already has an alias: Love TOY Wisdom.)

It is a spiritual and practical expansion of Heart Healing the Treatment of Oneness™ courses I was guided to create in 2010, as a wisdom by-pass to the former teachings. Love The One You’re With is definitely an inspired practice for creating the highest vibrations of peace, freedom, joy, beauty, compassion, and equanimity in the lives of all who follow it. It does not require that you dis-connect from your life of job, family, friends, church, pastimes, or any other worldly pursuits. In fact, as you will learn from following these simple processes, I will be sharing here with you, it is precisely those aspects of daily life that enable you to grow yourself into these higher frequencies of 5-D awareness, and beyond!

There is a very powerful draw to the truth, which I know that you can feel in what I am telling you here. It is not an accident that you came to this page.

So, placing your hand on your beautiful heart,

Feeling its beat, is where we will start.

This is just the beginning… there is no end…

You will find peace, joy, and freedom

In your own best friend;

Which if you don’t know now

Soon you will come to see

That your one true love is You,

And mine of course, is Me!

LTOYW    I Love You!

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Love The One You’re With

 

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Introducing Love Toy Wisdom

Love Toy Wisdom is a quip on the acronym for “Love The One You’r e With”… LTOYW. It is my newly devised practice and process for getting the most out of life … emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. In the weeks to follow I will explain the 5WH’s of Love Toy Wisdom (Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How and not necessarily in this order!)

If you’d like a first look, head over to my website http://www.cathymillagehearthealer.ca to the LTOYW pages. And please stay tuned because I promise, this is the simplest and most direct way to be joyfully happy that I have ever discovered.